Tuesday, April 26, 2011

Sunnah: Aqiqah & Shaving Baby's Hair, Bida'ah/Culture: Cukur Jambul Ceremony, Makruh: Qaza' (Shaving/cutting only some part of baby's hair)

Which one do you choose to perform for your newborn? Sunnah? Culture - which normally leads to Makruh or even Haram? or Makruh doings?

Alhamdulillah, so far we had never failed to shave our kids' head entirely on their 7th day, name them and perform the Aqiqah as stated in the Sunnah Nabi Muhammad SAW.
When two families unite in a marriage, of course both sides have their family tradition or their own way of following the Sunnah. We faced the same challenges too! On my family's side, all babies, no matter a boy or a girl will be shaved entirely knowing the benefits it will bring to the baby as well as following our prophet's Sunnah . 

However, from my husband's side, we received storms of comments (most are heart wracking! huhuhu) on shaving the head, especially during our first baby. According to my in laws, what they normally do is just shave/cut a bit/part of the baby's hair and leave the rest of the baby's hair. Reason being? The hair is too nice/thick to be shaved, baby girls doesn't look good with bald head and etc.. I have to admit that it did makes sense on the later part, huhuhu.

I did ask my family, why we should shave all of the baby's hair, not only some part of it but I've never received a satisfied answer. 
So we made some research by asking ustaz/ustazah as well from books & online readings. It is stated that, "It is not permissible to shave a part of the head and leave a part, as this was prohibited by Prophet Muhammad SAW, as reported by al-Bukhârî" . Such style of shaving/cutting baby's hair is known as Qaza', which is Makruh to be performed. (Makruh = There is no sin and no punishment if a person commits the Makruh, but it is blameworthy, not recommended and disliked)

Ibn Al-Qayem (Allah's mercy upon him) said about the benefit of shaving the newborn's hair: "Shaving baby's head removes the harm from him/her, removes the weak hair so that stronger and firmer hair replaces it and it is beneficial for the head. In addition, it comforts the newborn and opens the head's skin openings.And along with this is a strengthening of his eye sight, his sense of smell and hearing" Refer to Ahkamul Tifl: Ahmad Al-Eesawee 192.
Sheikh Ibn Uthaimeen said: "It appears that shaving the head on that day has a positive effect on the hair roots" Refer to Al-Sharh Al-Mumtiaa' 7/540.
Refer to Al-Sharh Al-Mumtiaa' 7/540

Hubby & me felt a big relief when knowing the facts, at least we managed to escape one Makruh doing to our newborn, Alhamdulillah. But of course, it is still not easy to convince those people who had been doing it for years because it is only Makruh, not a sin. Anyhow, as long as the babies are ours, the decision power is in our hands, just ignore the comments and backtalks :-)
Top left: Ms.LZ around 12mnth, hair is still 'struggling' to grow after almost a year  playing bald mini Sade, Top Right: Look at her hair! thick & gorgeous at 1yr++. Below: Allahyarham Umar looking good with growing shaved hair!
Talking about culture, most Malays choose to hold a Cukur Jambul ceremony, some are as grand as a wedding to announce the arrival of the newborn. I hope they do the necessary for the Aqiqah, serving the food for charity to those in need, not to show of. oops!

I'd like to share some readings on the above topics. To make things clearer..

The Aqîqah
After the seventh day of the arrival of the new-born, as a form of welcome for it and to give thanks to the One who gave the blessings, it is prescribed to slaughter a sheep. The Messenger (SAW) said,
"Every child is in pledge for it's Aqî qah which is sacrificed for it on its seventh day, and it is named on it, and its head is shaved" (Abu Dawûd)
If the new-born is a boy then two sheep are to be sacrificed, and if it is a girl then one sheep. This is the position of the majority of the scholars and Companions. The Prophet (SAW) said,
"for the boy two equal sheep, and for the girl, a single sheep." (Ibn Mâjah)
So it is permissible to sacrifice the male or female sheep or goat, and this is best. As for sacrificing other animals then the scholars have differed over this.
The sacrifice should be done by the father or a close relative, for our Prophet (SAW) performed the Aqîqah for his two grandsons. It is also obligatory to mention the name of Allâh over it while sacrificing, and if a close relative is performing the Aqî qah then he should add, 'this aqî qah is the Aqî qah of so and so' mentioning the name of the person on whose behalf he is performing the aqî qah, as is reported in the hadî th related by al-Bayhaqî.
The meat of the sacrifice may be distributed cooked or uncooked,, but it is preferred that it should be cooked as this leads to greater blessing as mentioned by a group of the scholars.

Shaving the baby's head
On the seventh day after the birth the head of the baby should be shaved. So when al-Hasan was born the Prophet (SAW) told his daughter, Faatima (RA),
 “shave his head and give the weight of his hair in silver to the poor" (Ahmad)
The right side of the head should be shaved first, then the left as mentioned in the hadîth,
 "shave, and he indicated to the right side of his head, and then the left" (Muslim)
It is not permissible to shave a part of the head and leave a part, as this was prohibited by the Messenger (SAW) as reported by al-Bukhârî. The strongest view seems to be that the head of the boy or the girl should be shaved, as is reported that Faatimah weighed the hair of her daughter (Muwatta) but the scholars differ on this, and Allâh knows best.
The shaving should be done after the sacrifice, and our pious predecessors liked to rub some perfume over the baby's head after the shaving.
Then it is prescribed to give the value of the baby's weight of hair in silver in charity, and it is recommended to give this charity on the seventh day also, but it is not necessary to do so, and may be delayed.

Monday, April 25, 2011

Ms LZ's first Public Competition!

Hehehe.. propa jer lebih mommy ni! It was just a Sand Art Competition sempena Macau Festival at Sunway Pyramid.
Last Saturday, we went to Sunway Pyramid after breakfast wit my cousins for baby clothes shopping. Came across this contest when we were searching for a place to rest our tired feet.
It was her first participation in an open competition, and she did really well.. pretty impressive in fact!
2nd Runner-Up out of 8 participants for category A (age 4-6). Well done, girl!

A proud winner!
Her Prize for 2nd Runner-Up

An unexpected win! I'm a proud mom! I love you, baby!

Thursday, April 21, 2011

Unlocked Car Door = 2y.o Girl Died!

Sharing this from an Fb status:
"Our neighbour lost their 2 year old elder daughter when she opened the car door while her dad was driving at a roundabout. He mother was holding the 2 month old baby on her lap. God bless them and help them through this difficult time"

What is wrong with you people? 

I know, Malang memang tak berbau! Ajal, Takdir! 
But, the rule of thumb of driving with kids in the car are always overlooked by most of us. So, pleaseee
 get these things done before you drive (and make sure your kids drivers/transporters obey the rules).

Central Lock or Manual Lock all your doors
Activate the Child Lock system on each passenger door 
Fasten the kids (and your) Seat Belts
Get a Kiddie Car Seat or Booster, i'm sure they are wayyy cheaper 
than polishing your expensive cars!

Another Child Safety issue: Are most school bus/van/car drivers reckless? Well, that's what I witness everyday. Latest, a lady driver of a school transport, just fetched some kids from SRJK(C) Lick Hung, Subang Jaya and drove with one hand on the steering, another hand on her handphone while talking. She was trying to jump queue on some cars at a junction, and she did it well! I should have taken the plate no, but I was too shocked and angrily 'admiring' her driving skills!

Sunday, April 17, 2011

How Long Can Our Friendship Last?

Only Allah knows..

We're celebrating our 20th anniversary this year. We've known each other since Dec 1990 (at a boarding school) and Alhamdulillah, our friendship is still intact till today.
Of course we went through a lot of ups and downs, like an old married couple.
I love you to bits, girls!

True friends are someone who thinks that you are a good egg though they know you are slightly cracked.
You will have no time to love them, if you don't stop judging them.
They stabs you in the front while others give you the sweetest smile while stabbing your back.
However, it is more shameful to distrust one's friends than to be deceived by them.
For we know, One Loyal Friend is worth ten thousand relatives!
~ Oscar Wilde, Eutipides (Greek Playwriter) & Due de la Rockefoucauld (French Writer)

** Photos by canggih camera from Eyes of Grace Photography's owner, Zubye (in plain Red hijab). 

owh.. and another friend from my primary school uploaded this photo in FB.. photos of me & some friends of Canossian Convent Primary back in 1988 or 1989 (can't really recall hehehe) during a school trip in Masjid Negara, Kolumpo!

Me? 3rd from right.. pakai cap (or visor hat) wit pinafore! hahaha! fashion statement tu!

Tuesday, April 12, 2011

20th Sports & Family Day

Her school's annual sports event was held last Sunday at Padang, 1Utama . Another fun time for the kids & parents.
Most of the kids still don't understand the actual feeling of winning & losing as all of them got to bring home a medal & a big prize if they complete each race. The objective was of course to expose them to sports & team spirit! Good job kids! Even I got a Gold Trophy for being a pregnant mom altho I didn't join the mommies race! Hehehe...
the babies wit Teacher Jo
bending it like Beckham
boys showing off medals!hot!

makan time!
Daddy J got a Silver trophy for acting sakit lutut tepi padang :-))

my lil pumpkin!
my girls!

mommy's race

And our Saturday.. cheered for no.21! Who went home with body ache and realized that he's no longer 25 :-))

Sunday, April 10, 2011

just when i really needed a spa..Mud Spa!

And it's FREE!
softer skin?
Big ewwwwwww!

While spectators were busy cheering, she kept on doing silly things asking for attention. Mommy J felt pening with this anak dara's kerenah, then she said, "why don't you go play with the mud..slippers off! I bet you haven't tried it! It'll make your skin soft, you know, like a Mud Spa.."

At first she hesitated, but enjoyed doing it after just 30secs.
There you go! Ms.LZ's first bare foot experience in a muddy grass! Hygienes aside, just concentrate on the fun part, getting comot with persmission!

Thursday, April 7, 2011



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Myth on Carrying a Girl

1) You will not get (or will get lesser) Morning Sickness = Na ah! I practically lived only in my bedroom for almost 3 months!
(Photo by Mr.Google d generous)
2) You will not have 'allergies' to certain smells = I hate my living room smell, the air freshener, perfumes, shower  cream..
(Photo: Google, who else?)
3) The baby girl in your womb will suck your beauty, wajah takkan berseri gitu! = Nope.. I think I'm Okayy..I still look good, felt even sexier! (hahaha..sila muntah!)
4) You tend to be lazy to do anything = Agree! 

5) You will lose your libido = Not at all! so far so good.. ooopss!
by Google

Can't remember other myths that I've been told to about carrying a girl or boy during this pregnancy..

Well pregnancy experiences and complaints are different from woman to woman. Anyhow, I appreciate your concerns :-))

Wednesday, April 6, 2011

Review: Baby & Toddler Portable Car Seat

I've been tagged in FB last week by an online baby store, http://simpledimplestore.blogspot.com/. They are promoting Portable Car Seats for Babies & Toddlers with a fairly affordable price, ranges from RM69 to RM89 depending on the design & colour.

So, have you heard of this safety product? Have you bought & tried any of it? I'm pretty interested in buying one for Ms.LZ but have yet to find & read any reviews on this particular car seat. Please help me leave your review or comments on this Portable Car Seat here if you have any.
As usual, before buying an online product, I make an effort to do some research and come up with a review based on the findings.
This convenient portable car seat is an economical and easy way for parents to travel with toddlers. No more renting car seats while on vacation. No more lugging and checking bulky boosters. Keep in mind that this is merely an alternative when a full-sized car seat is not an option.
Toddler Seat (Photo by SimpleDimpleStore)

This car seat folds compact to fit in a suitcase or tote. It is light weight, but still retains the safety features of larger seats. Children is placed in the forward-facing seat, buckle the harness points and make sure they are snug with the sternum stays. The back and bottom are well padded, and the padded shoulder straps will keep the neck from chafing. 
Baby Seat (for age 6-30 months)
(Photo by SimpleDimpleStore)
However, I personally found that the seat lacks in side cushioning, so i think it's not suitable for longer car trips when your child might want to drift to sleep, but for the portability, ease of use, and value, this travel car seat can't be beat.
Baby Seat (for age 6-30 months)
(Photo by SimpleDimpleStore)
This portable Car Seat is ideal for parents who are concerned about keeping their child safe while traveling. It is perfect for taking your children on vacation, using in rental cars or taxis, carpooling, caregivers and second cars. 
  • Forward-facing
  • Harness points restraint with adjustable buckle strap
  • Compact and lightweight design for travel
  • Padded neck & backrest
  • Vehicle seat belt securely locks through for installation
  • Harness is separated from the baby for added safety.
Kindly browse the blog for further inquiries and ordering. Happy trying!

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